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Name of the tool

Knowing me, knowing you!

Links to the keystones
Attitudes and awareness

Aim of tool/ Brief overall description
By doing this exercise the participants get to learn more about how others perceive them and their culture (B of ABCD-crown, see references), and compare this to their owns view on themselves and their culture.


Main methods
Group work
Interactive game



Description of the process and the possible stepping stones


  • Hand out the list of strengths and weaknesses and let people chose individually 5 strengths and 5 weaknesses of their own culture.

  • Form teams of 4 to 6 players and give them a stag of positive cards.

  • Every player gets 5 cards to start with and the rest is piled up in the middle.

  • On turn one takes a card of the pile and chooses and places in front of the player which fits best to the word on the card; they have to explain the choices. The next participants can chose if he/she takes a card from the pile or a card in front of one of the other players and does the same.

  • During the game the teacher observes the interaction (verbal and nonverbal) of the participants. In case of a group that is not really getting into dialogue or a group which is not playing the game with respect he/ she intervenes by questioning the choices they’ve made.

  • The game continues until every player has at least 3 cards in front of him/ her.

  • After playing the game discuss the outcomes: How do the cards in front of a person (the way others view you) differ from your self-image (see list)?

  • Play the game again with the cards with weaknesses.

  • After playing both games, let the participants reflect personally on how their self-image differs from how others view them.

  • Evaluate the process of the game. Don’t force people to react, let the participants react openly.






The pages with the positive and negative cards have to be cut into playing cards.

Abram, I (2001): The ABCD of classroom education; Projectgroep ICO, Den Bosch


Franke-Griksch, M. (2006): Ook jij hoort bij ons; systemisch denken en handelen voor ouders, leraren en leerlingen; uitgeverij Het Noorderlicht, Groningen


Henk Boer
Gerbert Sipman
Bernadet Tijnagel



HAN University, Hogeschool van Arnhem en Nijmegen, Pabo Arnhem